Couples Counselling in Hastings

Couples counselling, or sometimes referred to as relationship counselling, is for couples experiencing various crisis, like going through important changes of life or just wanting to relate differently to one another or be better understood for a more meaningful relationship . Maybe you want to resolve your conflicts by staying together or to separate and stay friends, in case you have children. Whatever your situation counselling can help throw light on things you maybe weren’t even aware before.

What is Couples Counselling?

Couples counselling is based on the relationship between any couple experiencing conflict which they find hard to resolve. I focus on the specific dynamic that has been co-created in the relationship, to form a deeper understanding between partners, and resolve specific relationship issues seen from a neutral perspective. Often, the communication style and language used between couples blocks healthy communication and understanding.

Who Can benefit from Couples Counselling in Hastings?

There are numerous reasons why couples seek help with their relationship, some of which are listed here:

• Couples who have unaddressed problems that need resolving
• Couples where only one is seriously jeopardizing the relationship would benefit from individual counselling, thereby repairing the damaged partnership
• Couples whose relationship is dwindling and want to end on friendly terms
• Couples who feel they are growing apart after many years together
• Couples who have children who’s parenting skills need improving as well as their own relationship difficulties
• Couples with deep trust issues or other serious unresolved issues
• Couples with different sexual needs who can’t compromise
• Couples who maybe struggling with the others anxiety, depression, etc., whereby individual counselling would be more appropriate

No two Couple is the same

Every couple is unique, formed by their own ways of relating due to their history and personalities. Couples Counselling can bring significant change in a few weeks, but for many this depends on how committed each partner is on resolving the situation by truly wanting to stay together or separating amicably. Effective relationship counselling is based on how much motivation and willingness both parties want to work together on their relationship, especially if children are involved.

Unfortunately, many partners who haven’t truly understood their reasons for separating, will probably find themselves in the same situation with the next partner. For this reason alone, a lot of future pain, disappointment or regret can be avoided by getting a deeper knowledge and better understanding of what honest relationship is.

The reason why Couples Counselling in Hastings is effective

There are numerous reasons for seeking relationship counselling whereby honest  communication will be paramount in how I work with couples based on freedom of self expression and true listening to one another. I help encourage free dialogue by listening impartially and equally to both parties, understanding the issues that you are facing and working with you towards more effective communication or better compromising, as differences will always be present. Couples/Relationship counselling is a collaborative process, whereby we jointly explore your needs and goals and work towards achieving them, with no bias on who’s right or wrong.

I offer an initial chat with my clients before commencing with the therapy, about the various issues you are having in your relationship and how I might be able to help you get a better understanding of what you’re both looking for to achieve in your relationship.

How effective can Relationship Counselling be?

Relationship Counselling can be highly rewarding, especially in improving relationship dynamics, improving communication style and especially minimizing conflicts, due to deeper understanding. There is much positive evidence that shows more satisfaction and improved emotional intimacy can be achieved. When both partners are willing to change and grow with equal effort, the results can be quite amazing.