Welcome to the website ‘Counselling For Peace of Mind’
Counselling and Psychotherapy in Hastings
With over 22 years of counselling experience, I truly believe that the majority of problems clients bring to counselling stem from inadequate relationships with their parents, siblings or whoever took care of them. The effects of these poor relationships so often carry over into adulthood, affecting all our current relationships. This is a common scenario in our western world and I put absolutely no blame on anyone, its just a fact of life, people do their best.
The good news is that change is possible, the solution is in the present and not in the past. If your life is miserable or unsatisfying, talk with me and I’ll show you why its that way and what to do to change it. Life is too short to waste.
As a consequence to these lacking initial relationships, children will do various things like, burry their true emotions, blame themselves for their shortcomings or strive for a false sense of superiority – all in the name of unconscious survival. However, carried-over-survival is totally inappropriate in adulthood, often causing needless pain and suffering. Rather, adult qualities like uninhibited self-expression, the ability to love, assertiveness, self-confidence will all lead to true Peace of Mind and in relation to others.
My solution is therefore to offer a real, authentic, good enough relationship with my clients, which they probably didn’t get in their childhood, in order to coax out hidden emotions and change faulty thinking, setup since childhood, which is still negatively affecting them from achieving fulfilling lives. The passing of time alone never resolves these issues.
As an analogy, I liken this concept to a computer programmed from the start with faulty firmware. It can only function correctly once the defective firmware has been replaced.
Good counselling frees clients to improve self-awareness and really get to know themselves and what’s holding then back. The ability to know and feel deep emotions typically leads to greater integration, maturity, and a sense of being in control of one’s life that may have been elusive in the past. My approach blends greater self-awareness with knowledge of how the mind works to help my clients take responsibility for changing their lives. I participant very actively in this process and do not hesitate to give feedback if the person I am working with is truly up for change and more freedom.
Even if you think that your life is not going the way you would like, meaningless or beyond redemption, you’re missing something, because actually, its never too late to turn it around into something worthwhile. So many of us feel we are stuck in some rut and consequently, feel we can’t escape.
My goal is to help you understand why we do what we do and how we can change that into something more satisfying and meaningful. Achieving this will give you the life-style and goals that you really want.
What I offer
I offer both short-term and open-ended work to anyone who seriously wants to change their lives. No matter what problem or symptom you have, there is always a solution. Life is too short to not to enjoy the happiness you deserve.
Robert is an established, fully qualified Counsellor, Therapist and Hypnotherapist with more than 22 years experience. (click here for About Me)
You may prefer telephone counselling or WhatsApp if that is your preference.
How I work
There are many different approaches to counselling. I work integratively, meaning that I use various approaches, depending on the situation, including Gestalt, Existential, Solution Focused and Dynamic Psychotherapy. Whatever style of assistance you need whether Counselling, Psychotherapy I’m more than happy to assist you.
When we start counselling I will accompany you, empathically, on your journey with our destination being more self-knowledge, freedom and Peace of Mind. Together, I help you remove obstacles that may be preventing you from becoming the person you were meant to be. (Click here for more detail)
For more information or questions you can contact me via:
CounsellingForPeaceOfMind — Mobile 07812-136246
Email me by using my query form -> (Click here)
I look forward to hearing from you and I’ll return your calls or enquiries within 24 hours.
A fully Confidential service is my priority, counselling and therapy in Clive Vale, Hastings, East Sussex.